This destructive relationship pattern—what I call rescuing wounded souls—is one of the most common relationship problems that face women today.
The rescuer is a woman who attaches herself to partners who are emotionally unstable in some way.
When I used to get triggered by the women I dated, I didn’t know how to be with myself or my feelings so I would simply disconnect or check out.
It’s what most normal people do who don’t know how to deal with their internal upset.
For the rescuer, she values love and relationships above all else.
Have you ever met someone who "romantically" knocked you off your feet -- as in "Hi Mom and Dad...
The thought of letting someone in who could potentially cause as much hurt and damage as the last person did is absolutely terrifying, especially if there's an actual connection. The individual may be strong AF, but those emotional walls are probably sky-high.you're not going to believe this, but I just met the man of my dreams! How did they miss the obvious warning signs before they became intimate and gave their heart away? " or "He wants the same thing I want: to settle down and have children.") For those of us who've been in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person, we know the pain of not being able to get close to the person we love." But, sadly, a few months later, your conversation changed to, "I can't believe he turned out to be so emotionally unavailable, and commitment-phobic." There are people who chronically meet and date individuals who, at first, seem so perfect for a warm, loving relationship. it's so easy to become intoxicated during that early infatuation stage when you meet someone who fits your pictures and seems like the perfect match. Our deep love for them can put us in denial of the fact that they are unavailable for an intimate, close relationship with us.For me, the moment my relationships got hard, I’d have a very hard time showing my genuine interest, so I put on a fake smile and said things were fine.But inside I was truly losing interest mostly because I didn’t know how to deal with the relationship challenges. The only thing I ever owned was that I didn’t want to call her my girlfriend.